My history with love was… pretty rough. 😳
I went on a lot of first dates, crushed on unforgivable bad boys, was admired by creepy boys, admittedly broke a few hearts and indubitably HATED men/relationships by the age of 24. I even bought Greg Behrendt’s, He’s Just Not That Into You when it first came out because THAT’S how lost I was. Here are a few things I learned from my dating experience:
- If he changes or stops doing the things he once did. This one guy would call/text me frequently throughout the day but all of a sudden, he was a no-show.
- Oh and obviously if he disappears/forgets you, don’t be THAT girl who goes crazy wondering if he was abducted by aliens or something silly. Don’t give him the benefit of the doubt because 95-99% of the time, his feelings for you disappeared & wasn’t man enough to tell you otherwise.
- If you catch him slipping. This one guy I was seeing for a few weeks picked me up and wanted to take me to some fancy Beverly Hills eatery. On the drive there he says to me that I should try the other sandwich he pointed out last week. I told him I had never been to this eatery before. He kept insisting that I went with him last week and that I was wearing a cute gray sweater. I blankly told him, “Sorry. It wasn’t me. I normally don’t wear gray because I have a horrible sweating problem.”
- “Since I asked you for your number and set up this date, why don’t you call me for the next one? Say, in 2 weeks? I’m busy and I won’t be able to text/call/see you until then.” Yeah. Right. He ended up texting me a few days later to see if I was available. Please go away.
- He’s separated but still married. ❗
- When he moves too fast. When he’s a smooth operator. When he TELLS you that he’s a bad guy. When his close friends are all losers. When your gut tells you to run as fast as you can. After a few times around the corral, YOU JUST KNOW.
I personally think it’s all about timing. Timing as in one’s own maturity, openness to love and where one stands at that point in their life. Shoulda, woulda, coulda’s are rarely used in my vocabulary anymore. It is or it isn’t. If not, don’t dwell on things that you can’t or couldn’t have changed. Learn from it and hope for a better tomorrow. Cheers!