My history with love was… pretty rough. 😳
I went on a lot of first dates, crushed on unforgivable bad boys, was admired by creepy boys, admittedly broke a few hearts and indubitably HATED men/relationships by the age of 24. I even bought Greg Behrendt’s, He’s Just Not That Into You when it first came out because THAT’S how lost I was. Here are a few things I learned from my dating experience:
- If he changes or stops doing the things he once did. This one guy would call/text me frequently throughout the day but all of a sudden, he was a no-show.
- Oh and obviously if he disappears/forgets you, don’t be THAT girl who goes crazy wondering if he was abducted by aliens or something silly. Don’t give him the benefit of the doubt because 95-99% of the time, his feelings for you disappeared & wasn’t man enough to tell you otherwise.
- If you catch him slipping. This one guy I was seeing for a few weeks picked me up and wanted to take me to some fancy Beverly Hills eatery. On the drive there he says to me that I should try the other sandwich he pointed out last week. I told him I had never been to this eatery before. He kept insisting that I went with him last week and that I was wearing a cute gray sweater. I blankly told him, “Sorry. It wasn’t me. I normally don’t wear gray because I have a horrible sweating problem.”
- “Since I asked you for your number and set up this date, why don’t you call me for the next one? Say, in 2 weeks? I’m busy and I won’t be able to text/call/see you until then.” Yeah. Right. He ended up texting me a few days later to see if I was available. Please go away.
- He’s separated but still married. ❗
- When he moves too fast. When he’s a smooth operator. When he TELLS you that he’s a bad guy. When his close friends are all losers. When your gut tells you to run as fast as you can. After a few times around the corral, YOU JUST KNOW.
I personally think it’s all about timing. Timing as in one’s own maturity, openness to love and where one stands at that point in their life. Shoulda, woulda, coulda’s are rarely used in my vocabulary anymore. It is or it isn’t. If not, don’t dwell on things that you can’t or couldn’t have changed. Learn from it and hope for a better tomorrow. Cheers!
So you just moved to Washington but don’t know the first thing to do with your license, registration, insurance, blah blah blah. I just moved to the Evergreen state in the last month so I can help you save some time on that end.
- First things first: get a Washington driver’s license. There are plenty of locations and some places like ours are open on Saturday’s. If you’re able to pre-apply online, please do so. You won’t need to fill out any forms when you get to the office and excluding the wait time, you’ll be out in half an hour.
No appointment is required. You show up, pull a number and sit your butt down.
Once your number gets called, give them your full name and your current valid driver’s license. You’ll have to take a new picture so ensure to beautify yourself like I did. 🙂
I can’t remember the exact dollar amount but you pay the >$100 fee and you are given a temporary license until it comes in the mail.
- Call up your insurance company and tell them you’ve moved. We have State Farm so they’re everywhere. We were able to easily transfer it over to Washington and save $600 a year! Take that, California! Pew pew.
- Visit a vehicle licensing office. It depends on your situation but for me, both our cars are already paid off and we hold the titles so it was pretty easy to get our plates. If your car is older than 2009, you will need to pass an emission/smog test before heading in.
Again, no appointment is required. You show up, tell the front desk why you’re there and they hand you a number.
They asked me for my Washington driver’s license and the title to my car. I was asked to sign a few things, pay the <$300 fee and I received my new plates right then and there! I went on a weekday at 10AM and was finished by 10:30! Like what?! The DMV in California is horrendous and even though you have an appointment, you’re still waiting at least 3 hours to get something accomplished.
I applaud you, Washington. 🙂
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You won’t believe how many drafts I have saved on this thing. When I try to continue or press publish, I chicken out and close out of the browser. As a blogger, I really suck at this but here we go with some overdue updates.
- After my last post in May 2015, my grandmother passed the following month from cancer.
She is/was so dear to me and even now, I can’t compute that she’s not here. I’m still grieving and I know I’m still holding onto her. I have a very good long-term memory and it’s upsetting but comforting when I go ‘back in time’. I have a fond memory of myself sitting on her lap when I was age 3. The kitchen tiles are basked in a warm embrace from the afternoon sun. I can’t recall what she’s wearing but that’s because my attention was focused on the apple she was scraping with her spoon. She scraped some apple and fed me while bouncing me on her leg.
I can’t seem to accept it and just let the emotions absorb. It just sticks out of me like feelers. Of course, I can function perfectly fine but just like everyone else in this world, this is one of the many things I carry.
- A big surprise I received the following month was a very positive pregnancy result. It’s not lost on me with the whole life & death paradigm. My second son was born last February. His name is Jake and he recently turned 18 months. 🙂
- So I moved from LA -> Curacao -> San Jose, CA and yes, another move to Seattle, WA. We only just moved in July so it’s still getting some used to; especially since I’m now a stay-at-home-mom to 2 active boys.
I think those are the big major updates for me. Anyone else want to share? 🙂
Holy moly. It’s been a little over a year since my last post. After a brief chit chat with Ms. Connie, I’ve realized maybe I should start posting again. We will see but I am a little hesitant about putting my life back on the web. I’ve heard stories where pictures of kids ended up on some strange pamphlet or part of some horrible scam. I’m either an all or nothing type of gal so… so I’ll take it a post at a time.
I believe an update is in order? 🙂
When I left the blog last year, I had just turned 29 and was still a SAHM (stay-at-home-mom). I was planning for Kyle’s 1st birthday and looking into full-time employment. But since then, a lot has happened!
- Kyle had a wonderful 1st birthday in August.
- Went to 2 fabulous weddings in September.
- Visited Seattle for the first time. Loved our visit!
- Received a job offer as a contractor for Accenture @ Google in October.
- Kyle started daycare at 14 months. Bittersweet. 😦
- Turned 30 and husband treated me to a wine tour in Napa Valley. Resigned and accepted another offer for Pro Limited @ Facebook this month.
What a year can do! What ONE month can do! I am so amazed and blessed for the opportunities and friendships that I have found while moving to the Bay last year. Life has its ups and downs but I am only happy to experience it all.
To be continued…?
My husband is working all weekend so he decided to take the day off yesterday. It’s always nice to have hubby with me! ❤
Breakfast: eggs with cheese + turkey bacon + leftover egg muffins
Lunch: we decided to stroll around Japan Town and see what they were all about. We lunched at Kazoo and what with their somewhat reasonable prices and big portions, I’m definitely going to come back! It was tasty too but I had another minor stomachache after this. It wasn’t as horrible as my experience at Wing Stop but uncomfortable nonetheless. Boooooo. My husband thinks it’s because I was gobbling down too many oily tempura.
We shared 2 rolls – forgot what they were called but it was delish!
Hmm.. I notice now that both our rolls were encrusted with tempura batter…. 😀 Funny how you don’t notice certain details when you’re hungry, huh?
I got the broiled mackerel combo and it was exactly what I wanted! Mackerel is my favorite fatty fish and this tasted just like my mom’s.
And onto my husband”s order. He was craving donkatsu and this boat combo was perfect. This was around $16 – not too bad.
And of course, even though I was complaining about a stomachache, I SOMEHOW still managed to polish off a green tea mochi ice cream at Jimbo’s. My husband had this at their store in Hawaii and remembered it being just as good.
We got 3 for $3.95 I think but don’t quote me on that! He got the chocolate espresso and the chocolate strawberry. The chocolate espresso was my favorite.
My stomach was still feeling funny a few hours later so I just had some Starbursts and called it a night. 🙂
My 9 month update:
- My extreme postpartum hair loss has stopped. And thank goodness my hair is growing back but all the new baby hair is sticking straight up! It looks so bad. I’ve resorted to gelling it back with super strength gel. 😦 At least it’s growing back, right?
- I’m almost back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I only have less than a handful of pounds left so that’s good. I thought I was going to lose everything by the 6 month mark but it didn’t help that I barely went to the gym and didn’t stick to any diet scheme. I’ve been reading stories of how some women & of course celebrities were able to lose all their pregnancy weight and more by the 1-3 month mark. I know it depends on genetics and how much you ate during your pregnancy but can I say, LUCKY! I was still bloated and not feeling like my old self until I hit the 6 month mark. But I also know there are many women who are not able to lose the baby weight as easily. I found it and still find it hard to reclaim my body afterwards.
- With the above said, I’m finally seeing how pregnancy has changed my body. It’s nothing too drastic like some women but changes nonetheless. For some reason, I lost a lot of fat from breasts. Since high school, I was known as that Korean girl with the huge tatas. It’s weird to see them so deflated now. I can see my breast bones sticking out behind them. I still have some extra fat on my face and stomach but I can’t complain too much about anything else.
- 2 lasting comments I heard about my post-pregnancy body: I overheard a stranger from a coffee shop tell her friend that she couldn’t believe a thin woman like me had a baby. That was really uplifting and wonderful to hear. My ears definitely perked up. A bad one? I headed to my cousin’s rehearsal dinner for her wedding and saw my aunt that hadn’t seen me since my wedding. The first thing she said to me in Korean? “Lisa, you gained a lot of weight! Especially your face!” I laughed it off but c’mon – I had a baby and it hasn’t even been a year since his birth! I haven’t felt that judged and self-conscious in awhile. 😦 I’ve learned to roll with the punches and you know something? People are going to say shit. It can be with purpose or without thought. I would like to believe it’s the latter. I probably say things at times that are devastatingly inappropriate too – no one’s perfect. So with that said, just roll with the punches. Duck, roll, do a split, or let it just smack you in the face and GET OVER IT. Don’t take things too personally. Don’t take horrible things to heart – it will do you no good. People are going to be people. Just say c’est la vie and smile.
2.5 months postpartum
3.5 months postpartum
5.5 months postpartum
9 months postpartum
Kyle’s 9 month check-up:
- 19 pounds / 29 inches long / 6-9 month clothing
- I’m a believer of vaccinations so he received everything he needed. Curacao doesn’t give as many vaccinations as the U.S. so he was missing a few. He usually has a fever after his shots but not this time around! He just had little bouts of crying with each shot and he was back to his happy self within minutes. What a trooper, right? 🙂
- He is a fast crawler. He gets into everything. He loves cords and phone chargers. He’s ruined 2 phone chargers already. Those are expensive, yo!
- He can climb stairs but hasn’t figured out how to climb back down. He just whimpers a bit until I notice his plight. I keep showing him how to navigate the stairs by climbing backwards but it’s a no go at this point.
- He’s been standing since before his 7 month update. He tries to stand on everything and is a pro with his walker. I’m so amazed every time I see him zooming on by — on his walker! 😀
- He has 7 teeth in total with another one on its’ way. It’s so strange to see him with teeth! Haha. He loves biting his daddy’s toes.
- He can clap his hands, give us high-fives, and point his index finger at us so we can do E.T’s go home. 😉
- He likes the game of chase. He giggles all crazy and crawls super fast to the kitchen. When he sees that I’m not following him, he crawls back out to let me know he’s there and to follow him. Such a smart little man!
- One other thing that I am amazed by is his understanding of cause and effect. For instance, there’s a little old style telephone ringer on his walker that he loves to twirl with his fingers. But he realizes that I’m much better and faster at it so a couple of days ago, he surprised me by taking my hand and placing it on the telephone ringer. I didn’t understand so I brought my hand back but he did it again!
- Strangers usually think he’s a girl. Does he?
- His personality is incredible. He is such a happy little thing. He coos, giggles, laughs, and smiles all the time. I love love love his happy demeanor.
- Oh and he’s such a troublemaker. I guess all babies are this way? But wow. He has such a mischievous grin and does things JUST to see how I react. Little rascal!
Did I mentioned he loves mirrors and his reflection? Kyle does mean handsome by the way. 😉
Yup. The cords. Freaks me out every time he does this. What if he somehow knocks over the lamp? What if he’s hiding a metal rod somewhere and electrocutes himself?!
He doesn’t like his zucchini.
My all-time favorite picture of Kyle. I’m so happy I got this shot!
His trademark chubby thighs. Isn’t he such a G? That one foot ALWAYS goes up when we’re strolling around the neighborhood.
I usually have him in pants but last week was too darn hot for pants.